“I don’t like it!”
Yesterday was my wedding anniversary with my husband.
Today is Valentine’s Day.
My adoring husband was kind enough to surprise me with two generous and beautiful gifts… a red heart-shaped crystal necklace and matching bracelet. The sparkle is amazing and it’s an absolutely gorgeous set. This gift is extra special because my husband and I do not normally exchange gifts. Ever.
There’s just one itsy bitsy small problem. I hate it!
It’s a lovely set for someone, but not me. It’s not my style at all. In the moment of receipt I was faced with a multitude of dilemmas.
Do I tell my husband who is anxiously awaiting my excitement that I don’t like his thoughtful gifts?
Do I fake it, hope he doesn’t notice, and pray it grows on me?
Do I really have to wear this necklace and bracelet every day for the rest of my life now?
And why after all these years does my husband not know that I wouldn’t like this set?
Nothing about it resonates with me. Is our marriage doomed?
I took a deep breath.
I felt like the worst gift recipient ever. I could barely muster the fake smile and instead got awkward and quiet.
This poor man will never buy me anything again! I said ‘thank you’ but he could tell my reaction lacked the enthusiasm he was seeking. Being the honest person I am, I came clean.
Fear not, my husband was completely understanding and much preferred me exchanging the set for something I could love.
I’m happy to report I’m now rocking gorgeous new jewelry of my choice. The initial guilt I felt turned into true appreciation and joy which is what my husband wanted me to feel all along.
It’s hard to navigate the gift-giving minefield sparked by sweet holidays such as today’s Valentine’s Day. If your partner fell-short this holiday, be honest with kindness. You might be able to save yourself the pressure of pretending to like something you do not.
On the flip side, I didn’t buy my husband anything. Poor him. I’ll have to do my best to find a way to make up for it!